One day, 4 1/2 months post-partum, you might feel a little skinny. You’re only one size larger than when you first got pregnant. Not bad, huh? Things are looking okay again. Your mother sees a photo of you and even says, "You look too thin, start eating more m&ms." You? You are Hot Snot.
Then? Then a complete stranger will FOR WHO KNOWS WHAT KIND OF REASON ask if you are pregnant. And you? You might look immediately down at your suddenly not-as-flat-as-you-thought tummy and wonder what the heck just happened. And the complete stranger will say, "Oh, I must have you confused with someone else. I saw the car seats in the back, there." Because, you know, pregnant women drive around with car seats or something? You might just nod, open-mouthed in horror and leave the scene. That’s what I did.
(I also sucked in my stomach the rest of the day and avoided mirrors. I did not, however, avoid m&ms.)
No one should ever, ever ask "Are you pregnant?" Never.Those are words that should be deleted from everyday speech.
I love you.
2:08 am
If I might suggest an alternate answer to question 12. If I could buy anything for my kitchen and space and money were no objects, I would get a personal chef. Why cook when you can get others to do it?
Oh and a recipe suggestions from a lazy cook. Manwich is good on spaghetti (or any other pasta)
5:18 am
Ok. That’s just wrong.
Hugs to YOU!
Cheers,
Kdubs
6:13 am
My mother taught me to NEVER (did you see that, stranger?) NEVER ask if someone is pregnant. One POSSIBLE exception is if they suddenly drop to the floor and start to give birth. But even then, wait until the head appears, just to be sure you don’t offend.
6:15 am
Oh, I forgot to say that this happened at my 10 year high school reunion, when I had given birth to number 4 two months previously. The thing is, I had ALREADY mentioned that I had a baby two months before that. What, did he think I was ALREADY pregnant AND showing again? And to think I had a crush on him in Junior High. No wonder he’s still single. Jerk.
6:53 am
I did that once – to a customer no less. I never ever ask that question, but I was working at a baby boutique so I’d gotten used to pregnant women being in there all the time. A woman came in with her mother and they were looking at things and talking about “the baby”, and I swear, she looked like she was pregnant. I asked something. I think it was, “when are you due,” or something like that. (a common question in a baby boutique, of course) She just glared at me and informed me that they were shopping for her sister. Ooops.
7:29 am
Ugh!! As I always had a big behind, my flat stomach was my pride and joy. Now after 3 boys I just can’t quite get it back. So I’ve decided to go ahead and turn it into a party trick. After imbibing in front of lots of people, I wait until an hour or so into the party, stick my stomach out quite far (think 4 or 5 months worth) and say “I can’t believe no one noticed!”. The looks are priceless.
8:10 am
Complete strangers are mornons.
M&M’s make everything better.
8:36 am
The only time I was ever tickled to hear that question was halfway through a dinner party, a few hours before I went into labor with Baby #2!!!
9:08 am
My husband did that one time. We were at the store and bumped into a friend and he asked when she was due. A split second after he asked, her husband came up behind her with their five month old baby. Talk about embarrassing. He NEVER asks that questions any more!!!! I, of course, knew she had her baby already.
9:45 am
That is a question I NEVER ask!!! Luckily I have avoided it! Strangers suck!
chelle
10:06 am
How badily did you want to smack them?!? That’s criminal.
10:10 am
Okay … just one question … does anyone have a problem with … post-baby-belly-mush?
Kay… It’s not like IIIII have that problem… I was just wondering if any of YOU had that problem.
Ummmmm … (in tiny whispering voice) does it ever go away?
10:43 am
Oh, my, how bad of him!!! I just shared this over at KDubs’ house too, but my single rudest pregnancy-related moment came when I saw my optometrist while waiting in line someplace when I was 7 months pregnant. He was shocked to hear I still had two months to go and asked me if I was going to have a litter. A litter???
Still recovering from that rudeness…
Mary
11:27 am
Yeah, I think I’d have to beat that person up!!! Definitely should be removed!!
11:33 am
I thought everyone knew that you just don’t ask that question!! How rude.
On the other side of the spectrum, I was pregnant with my daughter and my husband was in graduate school. I went to the university library and as I was checking out my books the cute black YOUNG female working the desk said, “Oh, you’re pregnant! Is it your first?”
I smiled, actually beamed with pride and nodded.
Then she said, “And you’re married, too!!!!!!!”
2:34 pm
Wow, what is wrong with people? I hate post-baby flab. My stomach pokes out WAY too far and I’m sure if I was not actually carrying a baby I might be mistaken as pregnant. So far no comments though. Which is good because I am pretty sure I would end up in a corner, crying my eyes out in the fetal position.
2:53 pm
LOL~~ My hubby looked at the picture from December and said “Geesh honey u looked 9 months pregnant!”~~ He is still breathing.. believe it or not!! hehe
3:30 pm
Sorry K, no one should EVER ask that question to anyone! (even if your 99% sure their prego.) Unless of course, their wearing a sign that says “I’m prego” OR if they verbally say it themselves…that question is out of my vocab! Happy M&M eatin’! You deserve a bag!
4:12 pm
We live in a SICK world don’t we? That’s manners 101, people!!!
There. I feel better. Do you?
–J
6:51 pm
I am totally with you on this one. It is never, everevereverEVER appropriate to ask a woman if she’s pregnant, unless you actually see a head starting to emerge from down below. Years ago I had a guy (who was HITTING on me!!) ask me that, and although I was 118 pounds at the time, I was horror-struck and never got over it.
9:48 pm
Unless you’re me, and you’re overweight, and when you are 9 months pregnant at your own baby shower and people refuse to believe you’re pregnant. Man, that bites. No, I’m just roughly the size of a whale, and no one can tell there’s a baby in there. Zut alors!
11:51 pm
HAHA! Oh, that has happened to me soo often back between #2 and #3 (kids, not bowel movements) Why do people do that??
I don’t ask unless the woman hasn’t seen her toes standing in 6 months and is going into labor.
Once I was asked and knowing my personality you’d laugh..oh, yes, I did. (I’m tough German Peasant Stock. I can handle it.) I told her “Oh, no. I’m just fat”. She was built like a dancer, all skinny and size zero.
I still laugh that I said that. Well, I guess she won’t do that again. Ever.
12:24 am
That’s so sad. I hate that people don’t think before they speak. I’m sure you look awesome!!
10:39 pm
Yeah, my hubby made that mistake once with a woman in line at the ATM. I think we all learned a lesson that day. Sorry it happened to you, if my husband’s reaction is any indication, the person who said it will hate themselves for quite awhile. Hope that helps.
8:50 am
That’s what happens when people watch too much T.V. and don’t get out into the real world. You know all those ladies on T.V. are all done up with photo tricks right? Did you know you can change skin blemishes,noses, flab,and anything else human and make a total sicko look beautiful? So ladies we are all competing with make believe women! But the men don’t want to believe that one! This blog reminds me of all the times people have said horrible stuff. It can really get you down. One time I was at church (of all places to hear this) And a lady asked if I was expecting and I said no but I just had a baby (trying to keep my dignity and hers) and she asked how old the baby was and I said, “a year old”. (Is there a deadline I don’t know about to get rid of that baby flab? Cause boy am I behind! No pun intended) Anyway she still had the nerve to say
“you didn’t JUST have a baby!” WHaaat! So advice on when someone says something rude, Just rub their embarrassment in their face and let them feel the burn or they will turn it back on you and make you feel like more of a loser than you already do. I have much experience with that as I always seem to be sparing someone else the embarrassment and putting it on myself. Well, I’m not gonna take it anymore! Hey that’s a song! “We’re not gonna take it, oh no! we aint’ gonna take it!”….