Hang in there, girl. As you know, I had one kid with issues the first year after homecoming that we had to work really hard on. I have done a ton of reading regarding attachment and know how scary wounded kids can get if they don’t get attached at a young age.
Praying this treatment will be the very best thing for your daughter.
Hugs and Prayers for peace…
Mary

You don’t own anyone an explanation. Only you and your husband know what you’ve been experiencing and how you came to the decision you did. Only you could make that decision and to tell the truth, anyone who tries to judge what you’ve done is trying to do it without all the facts. That’s all there is to it.

You, however, have my prayers and my admiration for doing the hard thing. That took courage. I pray that your daughter will get the help she needs so that she can resume a life that is full of hope and promise instead of pain and loss.

I really will be praying for you. Let me know if there is anything I can do.

Good for you, for stepping up for your daughter and doing what needed to be done. Even if it’s the hard thing, not the easy thing. I admire you. A lot of parents out there should, but don’t do what they know they need to do. They take the easy way out and just do nothing.

You should be very proud of what you’re doing for your family! My hat’s off to you.

I could never judge anyone on parenting. The only one you have to consult with is God, well and Mike. I guess that makes two. I will be praying that God will heal her completely. He can. Glad you’re back. You are the only one I know who can have me so thoughtful about a subject and then cracking me up with acorns, BTW.

Like Kim said, no explanation needed. You are doing what you think is best for your family, and who am I to judge that? I’m glad she’s getting help and praying that healing and restoration come to your family. I can’t imagine the pain and grief you’ve all been through. (The comic relief was HILARIOUS!!) Have a blessed day…guilt FREE.

I have been praying for you - not knowing where you were, but knowing things have been rough. I pray y’all will continue to feel covered by God’s peace - and that He will do miraculous things in your little girl’s life. No explanation needed AT ALL. Hang in there.

Oh Kelsey, I am praying for you, too, and grateful for a God who comes and meets us right where we are. May He reach out and comfort you throughout this time. You owe no one an explanation, and I would never dream of passing judgment on your decision. You are confident, Mike is confident–that’s all that needs to be said. I will be praying for healing for Kim and for a successful time while she is away.

Girl, you hang on! I worked in a facility for teens when I was in college, and it broke my heart to see the parents when they left. of course some never looked back and that was more heartbreaking.
you hold your head high and know that you’re doing what’s best for her, and for your family.
i’ll be praying for all of you.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what you did. You are the parents and only you can know what the issues truly are. And sometimes you have to make hard decisions. I pray all of you are better for it.

No judgement–just complete respect for a family that is fighting hard for one of its children. And–I join the others who commit to pray for you, for your daughter, and your entire family.

May God bless this decision, heal your daughter’s heart, and strengthen your family throughout this process.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Diane

You have been on my mind, since we hadn’t heard from you. I’m so sorry to hear the reasons, but glad you have found a solution. You are exactly right on the reasoning people have for choosing to judge certain situations. I am SO SO SORRY you are going through this with your little girl! I know you love her very much. I cannot even imagine how painful driving away must have been for you and Mike. I will be praying for Kim that healing will begin to take root in her heart.

And how nice of God to give you a cute little Ethanism. Just when you needed it most!

No rocks to throw here. My heart aches for you and Mike and your family. I pray God does a mighty work in your daughter’s life, and in yours. I know that must have been one of the hardest things you’ve ever done in your life, and I respect your strenghth in choosing to do what’s best for your daughter and your family. God Bless all of you, and especially your daughter.

And Ethan cracks me up!! LOL

So glad you’re back and that you still share with us and put yourself out there. I think few will dare to judge however. While my problems with my son are not as severe I do know the “why isn’t it enough, what else can I do” feeling and I give you all the credit in the world for doing the hard thing. I’ll be praying that God will work a miracle in your daughter and that he will give you and your entire family peace during this time.

Had to come back to tell you—that while your family look s great on the outside—YOUR HEART has always shown brilliantly across cyber-space. You exemplify what really matters–whether people understand or not–really doesn’t matter.

I pray that during this time when you could be feeling so lonely–that you will be surrounded by God’s amazing, and healing love! Whatever shape or form it comes in–may it come your way!

Diane

Don’t know if it helps any, but I thought I’d share a verse that I keep getting smacked with in the last few days: John 16:33

I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.

Hey HM! I knew something was up when the bloglines hadn’t shown you in bold for awhile. I was gonna send a quick email but didn’t want you to think I was a sicko or anything.

Praise to you for making the right decision for your family! I know from your posts that you are a terrific mother and wife. I pray God watches over your family and heals your little girl and her heart. We also have a similar situation with a nephew (out of state) and I prayed everyday that she would do exactly what you just did.

xoxox

I will definitely keep you and your family in my prayers. I actually know and lived right down the road from a residential treatment facility for kids with rad. The lady/mom there was awesome- and has been very successful in the treatment of many of those kids. One of them is now a very successful and loving young Christian woman, who is now doing seminars educating people about rad. Hang in there, you made the right decision!

You have placed your child in God’s hands. That’s right where she belongs. I will be praying for all of you that your family will be restored.

I’m praying and in your absense have been praying for God’s wisdom, strength, and peace to cover you and Mike. I can’t wait until the day when I read here your testimony to the power of God when you’re on the otherside of this mountain. Love you, HM.

It’s weird, I was gone over the weekend and stopped by several time since I’ve been home to check if you had updated your blog. You’ve been on my mind lots the the last couple days and I want you to know you’ve been in my prayers, too! I’m sorry for the harsh way people judge in these situations and I hope that won’t happen again!!

I’m praying for you and your family!!

ditto what has already been said, and I’m glad your back. Missed ya.

I’ve missed you. I’ve been checking everyday. You have to do what is right for you and your family. You are the one living it - only you know best.
We will be praying for Kim and for the rest of your family daily.

Faith

You did the right thing. Having had a foster child in our home for years with RAD, I knew exactly what you were talking about when you mentioned “the missing knife.” We picked J up from a mental facilty where he was hospitalized for depression — at age 6. He lived with us for years and we loved him like crazy but the final straw was when he came through the kitchen one day poking himself with a steak knife and chanting “I want to kill myself”. We knew he had to be moved for the safety of Jacob and Wesley - because he had mentioned wanting them gone from the house too. But it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done -

Kim is in a place where she can get specialized treatment - all the love in the world isn’t going to solve her problemsn. That’s hard for any parent to admit. I’m glad you have done what is in her best interest.

I know how hard it is. I’ll be praying for your family.

H. M., I’m sorry your family is going through this and I have no idea how hard this must be. I’m sorry for all the times I may have had the thoughts you’ve mentioned. I am not the perfect Christian and I know that I am not in anyone else’s shoes, much like no one is in mine to know why I’ve made my own decisions.

I will include you in my prayers.

I am praying for you. Parenting is the hardest job EVER. You know what is right for your family, for your family’s health and safety. There is no doubt that decision was one of the hardest decisions you and hubby have ever had to make. It is okay to feel relief that the decision was made, and you don’t have to have that nagging fear anymore. Maybe God be with you through all of this. Thanks for sharing your heart. I missed you and am glad you are back. Sorry you are going thru this, but what a testimony you already have to share.
Hugs,
Suzi

Awww honey…I’m sorry that you’ve been going through all of this. I had no idea. Still a little new here.

You’ve done a hard thing…but you have peace in knowing that it was the right thing. I sense that in your post. I totally love that you are so candid and real with us. You’re not alone or looked down on…we all have our “stuff.” You take care hun. {{Hugs!}}

It’s no one’s business. But I’m glad you did share it because God always uses our trials to help other people. Maybe there is a woman out there who needs to hear that they are not the only family who is going through this.

Even though we your readers can’t possibly understand what you’re going through, I think it is very healthy to have people you can put things out there with and feel their support and love. The internet is good that way…you can be anonymous enough to share things that you can’t with the ‘real’ people in your life.

I’ll pray for your daughter and your family…..I hope someday she can become a healthy person and learn how to relate and love. Interestingly, I just finished a post with a similar tone about recently havingto put my dad in a nursing home.

Christie

For what it’s worth, I think you did the right thing. I’ve been in her shoes and I turned out okay….right??? Seriously, you did what is best for her and your family. I am proud of you for that.

I am here if you want to talk. (Which I know you won’t but I have to say it anyway).

((((HUGS))))

I think you did the right thing, Kelsey. You made a wise decision to protect your family and get professional help to heal your daughter. Leave it in the Lord’s hands and have peace. Praying for you and your daughter.

Kim is right–you don’t owe anyone an explanation, even though many will act like you do. E-mailing you personally…

it goes without saying “You’re in my prayers”.

I, too, live one of those lives that appears much more solid and peaceful than it is. My children. whose ages are 18, 5 and 4, all three have special needs. Their needs range from mental retardation/autism to speech delays compounded by genius.All three have VERY different needs. They are ALL mine, biologically and otherwise.

No one outside of my house “gets” my life. It doesn’t make sense. My household has never been normal. I get judged A LOT, especially out in public when my oldest has a room clearing meltdown and the store manager wants to call the police.

I don’t judge you AT ALL for doing what you needed to do. In placing her, you’ve protected her from herself. And that is a parent’s responsiblility. I have had to protect my 2 younger kids from the oldest’s violent outbursts from time to time. People would FREAK if they really knew what my life was like….

There’s a book that I once read “A place for Zacariah” by Fran Kumpfer (or something like that). It talks about her severely profoundly retarded child who she eventually has to place in an insitution. Talks about the struggle she and her family go through. VERY heart-wrenching.

Our world is not perfect. I think you did what you had to do. I applaud your strength. You have way more than you know.

Suzanne

I’m so glad you’re back, and so sad to hear of the heartbreaking things you’ve been going through. I have two other friends who have gone through similar situations with their children and I know it’s the hardest thing a mom could have to do. But you did the right thing, without a doubt.

I’ll continue to pray for you and your family and your daughter – that God will restore what the enemy has stolen and bring peace and joy into your family again.

Oh, and if anyone dares to judge you for this? Send them to me. I’d be happy to tell them where they can shove those judgements.

{hugs}
If He brings you to it, He will see you through it.

Hang tight.

I actually know a man and his wife who just did the same thing last Sunday. Their three children are adopted. They are a great Christian couple, but being Christian doesn’t make your life perfect.
Their oldest son just announced that he was gay. They have issues with this, so they are struggling big-time anyway.
However at this same time, it had finally gotten to the point that they could no longer keep their middle child in their home. He was threatening to kill them. They had brought their youngest (a daughter) into their room to sleep at night and locked the door to try to keep him out. He was sneaking out and getting drunk and doing all sorts of things.
Their only option was to put him into a Christian boy’s home. It killed them, but their safety was at stake. I think God uses places like that. Our church actually supports a Christian boy’s home. So believe me, there is nothing to judge about your situation. I’m sure there are lots of people out there who understand you fully! I’m praying for you and your family!

We’ve missed you, Kelsey — glad you’re back. If people judge you for being “less spiritual,” they’re just not walking in your shoes. And you can remind them that Ruth Bell Graham, who SOME people might consider a wise, godly woman, put her rebellious son, Franklin, in a boarding school for several years (which he got kicked out of for misbehavior!).

If you ever get a chance to read his autobiography, Rebel With a Cause — you can hear the story from his point of view. Yeah. He admits — he was a tough kid. But God had a plan for him — Franklin Graham, of course Billy Graham’s son — grew up to found the Samaritan’s Purse organization and all kinds of other ministries — and God has used every bit of his testimony to bring people to know Christ. He’ll work in your daughter’s life too — praying for ya, girl. (Thank God for chick-lit, huh. Love that comic relief…)

oops — just noticed there are two comments (above) from “Heather.” I meant to sign mine Heather I. I’m always one of many.

Dear heart, words fail me. We had major issues with our son years ago, and I know how it feels to drive away leaving your child in others’ care, wondering, praying, crying. You and your family are carrying a heavy burden right now, and prayers are going up for you.

Wow. Never would have guessed all this was going on in your life, and the pain you’ve been dealing with. Dangit, we’re all so good at hiding what seem to be imperfections, and then when we’re hit with a dose of that “transparent reality” for others to see, it can hurt. But it doesn’t change the truth, and shouldn’t keep you from doing what’s right for your family. I admire your courage, both for making a hard choice and for letting us all see it.

{{prayers before the throne for you today}}

Sounds like you & your husband made the best decision for you, your family and most of all your daughter. When my dad was married, his wife had a son that was messed up beyond belief (probably not the same as your daughter he was into drugs hardcore and 15!) When he was FINALLY taken to facility for treatment, all of us breathed a huge sigh of relief!!

People judge based on ignorance because they have no idea what they would do. They are just lame and stupid for opening their big mouths!

Hang in there. I am so hoping your daughter will get the help that she needs. Attachment issues are tough. Although I was never scary (at least I do not think so!) I had attachment issues due to the absence of my mother my entire life! So I get the feeling. Somehow I made it through using my imagination and creativity. (and a lot of craziness during the teenage years!)

Hugs! Take care of YOU too!

Thank you for sharing this difficult time with all of us. Of course I will include you and your family (especially Kim) in my prayers. On occassion in your posts you have sounded like you are carrying heavy burdens. I am so glad you have found a place you can trust to help guide Kim through this difficult time. I am glad your other children are safe from harm. Trust yourself in this (as I know you are)and you will continue to have peace with the decision.

I send you my virtual hug as well..

((((HUG))))

Oh Kelsey, no judging from me. Only hugs. Well, Cyber Hugs.

Never feel you need to justify what is right for you and your family. I only hope that if we were in your position, that we would have the courage to make the decision you did. It takes a very brave set of parents to make the right choices sometimes. My prayers are with you, as well as Kim. God bless you and your family. Ken

K — I can’t even imagine how I would feel or what I would do were I in your shoes … my heart is full of compassion for you, because I can only imagine how difficult this decision has been for you and your husband.

God is faithful, powerful, and all knowing. He knows your fears, struggles, doubts, and worries. I pray that he wraps your heart (and your husband’s heart) in the palm of His hand and soaks you with his peace and rest.

Your decision was difficult, necessary, and painful… but your child is where she needs to be, and you have entrusted her into God’s loving and healing hands… I pray for restoration, peace and healing for Kim and within your family!

Sounds like you & your husband made the best decision for you, your family and most of all your daughter. When my dad was married, his wife had a son that was messed up beyond belief (probably not the same as your daughter he was into drugs hardcore and 15!) When he was FINALLY taken to facility for treatment, all of us breathed a huge sigh of relief!!

People judge based on ignorance because they have no idea what they would do. They are just lame and stupid for opening their big mouths!

Hang in there. I am so hoping your daughter will get the help that she needs. Attachment issues are tough. Although I was never scary (at least I do not think so!) I had attachment issues due to the absence of my mother my entire life! So I get the feeling. Somehow I made it through using my imagination and creativity. (and a lot of craziness during the teenage years!)

Hugs! Take care of YOU too!

Since you already have 44 comments, I didn’t take the time to read them, so If I have just repeated what someone else said, sorry.

I’ve decided that I don’t care what people think of me anymore. On my blog I try to be funny, and hope for lots of comments. In the real world, if you don’t like a descision I’ve made for my children, oh well, deal. They are mine, and I do the best for them that I can. That’s all anyone should care about. You did the best you could. I’m sure this decision wasn’t made lightly. I don’t think you’re a rotten mom. I think everyone hides behind a certain facade (sp?). I am happy that you are getting help for your child, and if anyone sees that as you all being selfish, then screw them! They haven’t been in your shoes, they don’t know what it’s like. Stand tall, stand proud, you’re a great person!

I missed you. Saddened to hear that you have had such a trying time of it.

No judgement here!

May Jesus wrap you in His arms and give you His peace which passes all understanding.

Love and hugs!

I’m sorry, I didn’t even know you were gone but I figured life might have been a little rough lately for you(just a feeling). It’s got to be rough to go through this and I wish I could give you a big hug! Just wanted to say that loving a person means being able to admit what kind of help he/she needs and not worrying how it appears to the world. The world is pretty mean sometimes. So being Christian does not mean proving how strong and faithful you are by never asking for, or accepting help from others! Being Christian is loving others and letting God help you which comes in many forms, usually from someone else! I think people get too caught up in proving something when they become Christian and lose the whole point all together because they turn nasty and judgemental. Being Christian is not being perfect but being nice and helping others. And I think you are doing a most wonderful job! These trials we have in life are the things that test whether other people have a true Christian heart or not. So as for the ones that judge you and your trials, please don’t let them determine how you feel about yourself. They have lost the path they first started on and have let pride cloud their vision. It’s easy to do and we’ve all done it, but man do I despise it. Anyways, I am rambling again and don’t even know if I’ve accomplished my point of supporting you! Sorry. *Hugs* and I am here if you need support. We have our own set of issues and you know what? I’m glad because it’s made me nicer. “With great trials come great Charity for others”.
yeah I made that up. You can tell? oh well!

We are all subject to trials down here and it does not mean God doesn’t love us or is punishing us. We are just subject to trials is all, but they sure bring us closer to him! Especially when they humble us………okay, I’m rambling again. xoxoxoxoxoxox lots of support!

I hate to be the 50th person to comment, but I do want you to know how faithful God has been to me in the challenges we’ve had with my son. 8 years ago we took him to a Christian boy’s ranch, and actually things got much worse before they got better. And he still isn’t living as we would like. But, God has overwhelmed me with his love for me through all this.

Most of my friends know nothing except me & wonderful hubby & two lovely daughters. Many people probably thought we were nuts. But I would never trade the richness of knowing God the way He made himself known in all my heartbreak.

I can relate to a certain extent. I have/am experiencing some of the same emotions you are. My stepdaughter was sent to live with us by her bio. mom when she was 12, and just this year at age 17, due to some issues (pretty bad issues), she had to go back to live with her mom. I have relief mixed with guilt feelings quite often. I think most people look good on the outside, but we’ve all got our little secrets. Thanks for being real and sharing something so very personal. I thought I liked you before, now I know I do.

Your Sister In Christ,

Hi Kelsey. I wondered where you were, and am sorry you’ve been having such a difficult time. I’ll be praying for you and your family, specially Kim. May you find God’s grace truly sufficient for you.

Kelsey,

I have been praying and thinking of you and your family ever since I read this(just now got the time to comment). I don’t know you personally but from reading your blog and sharing through e-mails, it is known that you are a kind and loving person. I can only imagine how much you and Mike are hurting right now, God is with you. A good friend of mine quite often reminds me to find my rest in God and I will pass that on to you and yours. We all have our problems and most of the time people on the outside don’t have a clue but, know that there is no one out there that has any right to judge anyone. You did what was right for your family and that is all that matters, God will take care of the rest. I will continue to pray for you and yours, hang in there and know that God is with you.

Thank you Kelsey,

For your honesty and bravery. Are you sure we do not have the same kid here? I told you before that I had to have mine admitted for a bit. The night before we did that, we hid all of our knives and kept the baby with us and the door locked. I know what that feels like, I feared for her safety and all of ours (the new baby especially). She really liked being there, felt people understood her and did not judge. She got help there, and is still evolving and changing. But overall, things are well with her. Better anyway. I share so many of your feelings here, I just wanted to say, it’s okay. You and I and so many others should talk about it. Connect with other people who can understand…etc. I know what point you have to get to in order to open up the the universe like this, but I am so glad you did.

(an arm around your shoulder(
mandy

I have a friend who is going through the same kind of stuff right now with not one but two step daughters both under age 8. I see how hard it is for her and know that I will never understand the kind of strength she has had to find just to get through each day.

If you know you have done the right thing then it is no ones business but yours. I for one am proud of you for doing the hard things for all the right reasons.

God bless
RRW

Parenting has ripped the gavel of judgment from my fist. Instead of condemning you, I’m thankful that you’ve found help, a place to turn. Kelsey, I know God’s with you as you move forward to help your daughter and yourselves.

Keep the faith.

P.S. I just had to add that I appreciate you being so real and open to your readers, whether you are telling us funny stories or difficult ones like this. However you go, you so obviously love God and love your family… it’s inspiring to all of us moms (whose lives aren’t perfect either)!

I had wondered where you’d gone. Just thought it was a little R&R.

I can sense the love you have for her in your writing, I can sense that you have struggled long and hard with placing her where she now resides, and I can sense that it’s tearing you up inside, but that you KNOW without a shadow of doubt, and with the sense of peace that only comes from God, that you are doing the right thing for her…getting her help before it’s too late.

Never feel guilty for loving someone so much that you’d do anything to make them feel better, even if it means not looking so hot to outsiders.

That being said, I think you hit it right on the nail! “I think they have to convince themselves that if it were them - if they were in my shoes - they’d have the answer, and it wouldn’t come to this.”

Sometimes the worst thing you can do is nothing and the best thing to do is the last thing you wanted to do.

If it’s the best thing to do, don’t worry about what anybody else thinks.

Thank you, thank you for saying the things I feel…

“There’s a huge group of people that will never accept that a mom (a Christian mom..?!) could ever be ‘doing the right thing’ by placing her kid in a facility. There must be alternatives, other solutions, more prayer, the ‘right’ kind of prayer, more patience and understanding on my part, less stress, fewer activities, more quality family time, a different therapist, no therapist, group therapy…

I’ve kind of heard it all. And you know why a lot of people say all this? I have a theory. I think they have to convince themselves that if it were them - if they were in my shoes - they’d have the answer, and it wouldn’t come to this. Not on their watch. Not their kid. Never. I can’t blame them. It’s scary to think that all your parenting and love and God and friends and family might not be enough to keep your kid in your home if something goes terribly wrong.”

It is the HARDEST decision a parent, ANY PARENT, has to face, much less make. Unless you are that parent, experiencing that pain, with your child… it’s impossible to know you would do and even then, you second guess yourself… over and over and over.

Holy Mama, I will be praying ferverently for you and your precious little one. I hope you will continue to share your struggles and triumphs during this time. I’m there with you in spirit, regarding a different problem, same solution. (See my post of June 2… probably already archived.) The hardest part is trust… trust her, trust your husband, and most of all trust that God is right there with her… even if she doesn’t want Him to be.

Thinking of you with a kindred spirit… MommaB

You’ve had so many responses, there’s nothing new to add except that you are obviously a great mom with a big heart. No matter what happens, you keep doing what your heart tells you to because it is obviously in touch with your creator.
Whenever you feel like people are judging you I hope you will remember that your calling is to do the best for your family, not for those busybodies.

Girl, we have emailed back and forth about it to the point where I am certain you know I think you did the right thing.

Kelsey, I know it’s the hardest thing you’ve probably ever had to do. And I know a day won’t go by that you are not praying for her.

I’m glad you’re back and that Ethan’s nuts…uh, acorns are okay.

I missed this when you first posted — I’m way behind on my blog reading. Just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and your family, and I admire you for having the strength and resolve to do something that you know needs to be done even though it is so difficult.

I can feel your relief. I can hear it. God is in control. He has guided your family all along. And best of all - he’s with her right now. He can do exceedlingly, abundantly above ALL the we can ask or think! (I’m not a Bible beater so to speak, but boy do I cling to that verse of promise in times of need!) (oh yea, it’s epch. 3:20-21).
I am so excited for the positive changes and healing for her and you all to come!!

Glad you’re back! I’ve been sort of gone too, this week; so am getting in pretty late here.

On a smaller scale, I felt similarly when we realized I just couldn’t keep homeschooling my oldest, who has Asperger’s. When we put him in special ed in the public school, I felt like I had to justify that decision to every homeschooler I knew! But God gave great peace of mind to me and to our family through it–and as I said in my post, He keeps confirming that it’s the right thing for us, for my son, for now.

As I’ve said before, He’s not a one-size-fits-all God! I’m so glad that you have this option, for now at least.

I’m sure you do appear pretty “together,” and I bet you could easily keep up an image here if you wanted–but I love it that you’d rather be honest and real. To me, that says that your heart before God must be transparent and open as well–and “a bruised reed he will not break.”

Praying for your daughter, and for you–

Jeanne

I hope you DO get on TV to share your opinion. PBS was great for kids, when it was the only game in town. Now others play the game too–just as well, maybe better. I appreciate PBS for the groundbreaking work it did, but that era is long past.

My heart goes out to you, sister. I can’t imagine how hard this has been.

It’s funny - I was saying something similar about a teeny tiny issue… One of my friends chided me over the phone about my four year old’s only just now getting potty trained. (he’s developmentally delayed - but I don’t know if she’s quite “gotten” that) My thought was “You try and raise him!”

It always looks easier and simpler from the outside. We just don’t get it until we live it. Big hugs going out to you…

By the way, I’m in West Texas too. Northern Juarez - if ya know what I mean. Are we close?

I’m behind on my blog reading so I’m just now reading this and I cried as I did. My heart was breaking for your little girl and it was breaking for you and the rest of your family. And I agree that you don’t owe anyone any explanations! You made what had to have been a very difficult decision in order to do what you feel is best for your daughter and your family and NO ONE has the right to judge you for that decision.

Fervently lifting you guys before the Lord. (((HUG)))

I am not sure how I happened upon your blog, but it must have been a calling from God. I am in a similar emotional situation. Different circumstances, but without my daughter none the less. Faced with the anguish of being relieved at the same time that I am mourning life without her.
You right about the attitude of others - “Not on their watch. Not their kid. Never.” Even a *few* Christian friends.
A wise friend said to me – “Put her in the river mama. It worked with Moses. She will come back … “ That is what you are doing with your daughter and what I am trying to do with mine. Stepping out on faith that God has the right plan for her. And me too …
Good luck and God bless you and yours …
I will be back!
mamak

Praise the LORD that there are people out there who can help you with this. AND praise the LORD that you are parents who recognize that you cannot do it on your own.

Your sacrifice and putting aside of pride will be to her benefit and it will change her life forever.

I THINK YOU ARE A FANTASTIC MOM!

Praise the LORD that there are people out there who can help you with this. AND praise the LORD that you are parents who recognize that you cannot do it on your own.

Your sacrifice and putting aside of pride will be to her benefit and it will change her life forever.

I THINK YOU ARE A FANTASTIC MOM!