Comments on: I’m Back. (My Lips are Glossy.) http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/ "True confessions from the everyday life of a sorta shallow Christian mom." Tue, 07 Feb 2012 22:56:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Lisa S. http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4070 Lisa S. Mon, 09 Oct 2006 08:18:57 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4070 Joel is right. My husband would do that occasionally - and then HE was the househusband. It was really, really bad. And he didn't realize things that I used to do automatically, like wipe the toilet everyday when there is ONE toilet for 8 people, including 2 potty training boys. It was easy to clean in a one time shot. It was not easy to manage the everyday details of the house day in and day out, and *I* still homeschooled them myself at night when I got home from work! Joel is right. My husband would do that occasionally – and then HE was the househusband. It was really, really bad. And he didn’t realize things that I used to do automatically, like wipe the toilet everyday when there is ONE toilet for 8 people, including 2 potty training boys. It was easy to clean in a one time shot. It was not easy to manage the everyday details of the house day in and day out, and *I* still homeschooled them myself at night when I got home from work!

]]> By: GiBee http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4069 GiBee Thu, 05 Oct 2006 15:02:44 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4069 First of all, I'm bummed ... because I have a great, beautiful awesome stroller which makes my life easy, and really want to bring it... because it's a cadillac... but throw it around like a wad of paper! SAY IT ISN'T TRUE! And WHAT?! No upgrade? That's just wrong. Now see ... some people say they "turned on their husbands" like a mama bear if they showed them up cleaning the house ... frankly ... if I came home to a clean sparkly home, I would be "turned on." Oops -- did I say that out loud? Can I say that on a family-friendly blog? First of all, I’m bummed … because I have a great, beautiful awesome stroller which makes my life easy, and really want to bring it… because it’s a cadillac… but throw it around like a wad of paper! SAY IT ISN’T TRUE!

And WHAT?! No upgrade? That’s just wrong.

Now see … some people say they “turned on their husbands” like a mama bear if they showed them up cleaning the house … frankly … if I came home to a clean sparkly home, I would be “turned on.” Oops — did I say that out loud? Can I say that on a family-friendly blog?

]]> By: Lauren http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4068 Lauren Wed, 27 Sep 2006 22:07:29 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4068 I read this a couple days ago and told myself I better come back later to comment 'cause maybe then I'll get it. Nope, still don't. Love ya though! I read this a couple days ago and told myself I better come back later to comment ’cause maybe then I’ll get it. Nope, still don’t.

Love ya though!

]]> By: Shalee http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4067 Shalee Wed, 27 Sep 2006 10:23:29 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4067 Okay, I just can't get the "house-is-cleaner-than-when-I-left" rant. I would be so awed by it that my family would have wondered if I just came down from the Mount. Yeah, I'd get over that or else Mike not do it again for you. Alas, I'm so glad you are back! And I'm so envious of your cupcake adventure. Okay, I just can’t get the “house-is-cleaner-than-when-I-left” rant. I would be so awed by it that my family would have wondered if I just came down from the Mount. Yeah, I’d get over that or else Mike not do it again for you.

Alas, I’m so glad you are back! And I’m so envious of your cupcake adventure.

]]> By: joel http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4066 joel Wed, 27 Sep 2006 09:56:04 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4066 Okay, gotta pop back in on this one. This is a complete confirmation of the fear on the guy's side that he's in a situation he absolutely cannot win. I've had this argument with myself before, wanting to help out and give her a nice surprise when she gets home, but not wanting her to feel like I'm saying she should be able to do it all the time. It's a conflict between trying to provide for her physical needs and her emotional needs, and it's no fun. So what if I just do a partially mediocre job to show that I gave the effort? Then I'd be annoyed at myself because I didn't do the job as well as I could. I think one key is to realize that if the tables were turned and your guy was the one home with the kids all the time, I can almost guarantee the house wouldn't look any better than under your watch, and quite possibly worse. It's a matter of having a one-time (each time) opportunity to do something he perceives as a service to you. He's probably not doing it for himself (most guys care quite a bit less what the house looks like than the ladies do), he's doing it for you. If you look at it that way, it might help alleviate the reading-between-lines-that-aren't-there syndrome. :) - Joel Okay, gotta pop back in on this one. This is a complete confirmation of the fear on the guy’s side that he’s in a situation he absolutely cannot win. I’ve had this argument with myself before, wanting to help out and give her a nice surprise when she gets home, but not wanting her to feel like I’m saying she should be able to do it all the time. It’s a conflict between trying to provide for her physical needs and her emotional needs, and it’s no fun. So what if I just do a partially mediocre job to show that I gave the effort? Then I’d be annoyed at myself because I didn’t do the job as well as I could.

I think one key is to realize that if the tables were turned and your guy was the one home with the kids all the time, I can almost guarantee the house wouldn’t look any better than under your watch, and quite possibly worse. It’s a matter of having a one-time (each time) opportunity to do something he perceives as a service to you. He’s probably not doing it for himself (most guys care quite a bit less what the house looks like than the ladies do), he’s doing it for you. If you look at it that way, it might help alleviate the reading-between-lines-that-aren’t-there syndrome.
:)

- Joel

]]> By: Rebecca http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4065 Rebecca Tue, 26 Sep 2006 19:26:55 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4065 Oh yes, I totally identify. If I'm at home and don't feel good, nothing I do is important enough for anyone else to do, but if I'm gone and anyone else does it, of course it's always better. (could I have possibly written a sentence with messier punctuation? I don't think so) Oh Well. (I sometimes try to console myself that it's because they aren't tending to the RELATIONSHIPS. --?) Oh yes, I totally identify. If I’m at home and don’t feel good, nothing I do is important enough for anyone else to do, but if I’m gone and anyone else does it, of course it’s always better. (could I have possibly written a sentence with messier punctuation? I don’t think so)

Oh Well. (I sometimes try to console myself that it’s because they aren’t tending to the RELATIONSHIPS. –?)

]]> By: mandy http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4064 mandy Tue, 26 Sep 2006 17:29:32 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4064 You know, my husband has this same annoying habit. As he is off on Thursdays caring for the kids alone, the house is always spotless when I arrive home. You would think this would please me?! But no, the smuggness that is underlying is unnerving. What? I am off for three days a week and the house never looks that clean on my duty...I know he is thinking I am a slacker and just trying to show me up. I just KNOW it! You know, my husband has this same annoying habit. As he is off on Thursdays caring for the kids alone, the house is always spotless when I arrive home. You would think this would please me?! But no, the smuggness that is underlying is unnerving. What? I am off for three days a week and the house never looks that clean on my duty…I know he is thinking I am a slacker and just trying to show me up. I just KNOW it!

]]> By: mandy http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4063 mandy Tue, 26 Sep 2006 17:28:39 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4063 You know, my husband has this same annoying habit. As he is off on Thursdays caring for the kids alone, the house is always spotless when I arrive home. You would think this would please me?! But no, the smuggness that is underlying is unnerving. What? I am off for three days a week and the house never looks that clean on my duty...I know he is thinking I am a slacker and just trying to show me up. I just KNOW it! You know, my husband has this same annoying habit. As he is off on Thursdays caring for the kids alone, the house is always spotless when I arrive home. You would think this would please me?! But no, the smuggness that is underlying is unnerving. What? I am off for three days a week and the house never looks that clean on my duty…I know he is thinking I am a slacker and just trying to show me up. I just KNOW it!

]]> By: julie carobini http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4062 julie carobini Tue, 26 Sep 2006 15:43:16 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4062 Yeah, when the kids were very little and my husband would take some time out to zip around and fold towels all nice, and wash dishes, I sometimes turned on him like a hungry bear. Was all that energetic cleaning his way of saying that my job was easy? Or that I didn't do it right? Was he trying to teach me by his example??? Well, that was then. Now when I see him towel-drying dishes after we've both had a long day, I just recline on the couch and reach for another truffle. LOL. Yeah, when the kids were very little and my husband would take some time out to zip around and fold towels all nice, and wash dishes, I sometimes turned on him like a hungry bear. Was all that energetic cleaning his way of saying that my job was easy? Or that I didn’t do it right? Was he trying to teach me by his example???

Well, that was then. Now when I see him towel-drying dishes after we’ve both had a long day, I just recline on the couch and reach for another truffle. LOL.

]]> By: TC http://holymama.org/2006/09/im-back-my-lips-are-glossy/comment-page-1/#comment-4061 TC Tue, 26 Sep 2006 10:12:08 +0000 http://holymama.org/?p=214#comment-4061 Yup, some days I am cranky on matter what. Did you know that QVC sells Smashbox cosmetics? Or at least I think it's Smashbox. I don't know. I do buy my Bare Escentuals off there. Yup, some days I am cranky on matter what.

Did you know that QVC sells Smashbox cosmetics? Or at least I think it’s Smashbox. I don’t know. I do buy my Bare Escentuals off there.

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