Wednesday, February 13th 2008
Partying with the Four Year Old Crowd

Maybe it’s that Yahoo is constantly in the news, with their layoffs and possible takeover by Microsoft but do you know what is CONSTANTLY going through my head?

Do you?

Is it happening to you, too, and you can’t make it stop?

Come on, sing it with me, “Yah – HOooooOOO!”

I’m hoping that will make it go away.

Now. Tonight was the party for Caden-4yr, in the land of All Playthings Large and Inflatable. So fun! I usually play, but tonight I had the privilege of holding a teeny tiny baby. He curled against me, sleeping, and making soft squeaky dinosaur noises. Those are the best.

Caden-4yr kissed me goodnight just now and formally said, “Thank you for coming to my party. Thank you for inviting all my friends.” Then he kissed me again and smiled and picked his nose. Now doesn’t that just melt your heart?

We could practically see Ethan-7yr making copious mental notes. His birthday is next, and his plans are everchanging and elaborate. He found it completely offensive when last year I said that no, there would be no parties. I just don’t want them to grow up thinking they are entitled to a huge birthday party every year. Is that so bad? I think there’s great value in making them less frequent. I mean, they can still HAVE a birthday, and a special family gathering and candles, and the honor of bumping up the age by a year – I’m not that mean. They can age. But sometimes it feels sooo right and noble to say ‘No. You are not entitled to that, and it’s just not happening.’ Some people feel all wickedywitch about ‘no’, but i not-so-secretly love those moments. I can practically SEE character sprout out of them in those moments.

And so tonight it was even more sweet to see Caden-4yr so happy with all his friends. They ran, and played, and held hands, and chased and climbed and completely delighted me. It was wonderful. (Well, there was the one time where we briefly lost him, but he was okay. And not far away. And not scared or concerned.)

The purple cake with the photo of his face looked sort of cool. Not nearly as creepy as I was afraid it would turn out. And there was lots of pizza left over. I think I hear it calling from the kitchen. I love cold pizza. Is that it…? Calling?

Yah- HoooOOOooo!

Ah yes.

~hm

8 Comments on “Partying with the Four Year Old Crowd”

1
Jeana
February 13th, 2008
1:24 pm

It is SO good to be hearing from you more often again!

We don’t do big parties every year. Most of the time it’s just us, the kid’s choice of supper, and a cake.

2
Shalee
February 13th, 2008
3:31 pm

It’s funny. The Girl was talking about her “next birthday party” and I said, “I don’t know that you’ll be having a big one here.” She stared at me as if I had sprouted a third head. “Well, The Girl, it’s not like you don’t celebrate. Grandma gives you one every year at her place and we always have one with our friends after church… sooo, I’m not sure we’ll do a big one for you.”

She got it. She didn’t love the idea, but she got it.

Sounds as if you had the perfect day, baby holding and all.

3
LaLa
February 13th, 2008
4:01 pm

I’m so glad the purple floaty-head cake wasn’t creepy – and that the tiny baby came and snuffled with you!

4
Miss Sniz
February 13th, 2008
6:25 pm

It was so good to hear you say that about birthday parties. I feel exactly the same way, although I probably feel more guilt about it. I wish I didn’t. But at least it doesn’t stop me from telling my kids that they don’t ALWAYS get a friends-party. I always make the cake of their choosing from scratch, and we always have a family party. I think that’s enough sometimes, but I think the reason I feel a little guilty about it, is because I dread planning big kids parties, so it is actually easier on me NOT to do it. You know?

5
emily
February 13th, 2008
7:21 pm

i agree w/you about the parties — that’s how it was in my family growing up. w/5 kids, my mom just didn’t want to worry about throwing 5 parties every year. so certain years were designated ‘party years’ and the other years you could maybe have a sleepover w/one friend or for sure the family party.

6
Linda
February 14th, 2008
3:25 pm

When my son was growing up, he had several big parties but then as he got a little older I would sometimes ask him to pick one friend. He and is one friend would be taken to the batting cages etc…then to lunch. Of course we always had family kind of parties as well.

7
Stephanie
February 14th, 2008
9:30 pm

Happy Valentine’s Day:))))))))))))))))))))

8
Miss Sniz
February 15th, 2008
1:24 pm

Did you have a good Valentine’s Day?

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