Thursday, July 21st 2011
Oh So Important, This Stuff

i believe if you toast pecans, they taste 700% better.

i believe in pulling the Most Obnoxious Child In The Room in for a hug, because even if he’s being particularly unhuggable – it’s probably what you both need. (reconnecting.)

i believe in praying before you even wake up fully, and pretty much not ever stopping – just pausing. (reconnecting.)

i believe in my phone being just that - my phone. Not a ‘here, you can play a game on it’ child toy-like thing. Amuse yourself with your own imagination and brainpower instead, sweet child, as there are no games on it anyway.

i believe firmly in scheduled “down time.” sitting in the sun in the backyard staring off at nothing IS important. It’s when I daydream, pray, write scenes in my head, live.

i believe in honesty. the sort where you try to be as honest as possible deep within your own thoughts about things no one else will ever hear. the things that you could lie to yourself about if you really wanted to, and no  one would know… i try hard not to, even if it hurts more. (and it always hurts more.)

i believe in nice sheets, good shampoo, and well-made machines. i do not believe in clothes, jewelry, shoes, or purses with status symbol type branding all over them. ( i don’t care if you wear them – but it all just makes me feel silly.)

i believe in nice, manly arms. but not if they are purposely flexed for my benefit. in that case, no matter how nice the arms, i do not like them at all, and instantly i do not like the man. i’m funny like that. (parking lot at gym incident solidified this view this week. still cringing over it. i mean, what do you say? besides, ICK?) mike might be an exception. i don’t know. he’s not prone to random flexing, which is fine.

i believe in feeding birds and killing spiders.

i believe in kids’ blindfold lunches. At least twice a year. i think my mom started this when she wanted the boys to try hummus.

i believe in the importance of not needing other people to positively define or appreciate you. if you really need this… what happens when they stop? (and they will.)

i believe in cheap mascara and expensive moisturizers.

i believe in friendship, although i’m not very good at it. i don’t like to assume people like me more than they’re willing to say, so i often mistake friendly interest for politeness. (but i’d always rather do that than mistake politeness for friendly interest.)

i believe that anything you’re tempted to pay retail prices for can and will be found on ebay for far less, if willing to wait.

i believe in shoes with bows, clothing with lace, and lip gloss with sparkle.

i believe in adrenaline, sweat, and sore muscles.

i believe it honors God to love your life and the people within it.

i believe that when you find jeans that actually fit, you pay whatever is necessary and you buy at least two pairs (and maybe four) because this is a miracle from God and it may never happen again for the rest of your life.

i believe that kids playing electronic game type things is a privilege that should be limited to small amounts of time and yanked away forcefully at the very first hint of entitlement or whining.

i believe in avoiding those programs that tell you what key words people use to find your website. it’s depressing how many people search ‘naked kick boxing’ and even more depressing that they all end up here.

i believe in a ‘no whining’ policy. if someone whines, mike and i ask for a ‘non-whiny voice’  before we’ll even listen. whining is never rewarded or even heard here becuase it’s not a recognized form of communication. Elevate your style, child,  if you want to be heard. (brutal, i know.)

i believe you choose your emotions. no one makes you feel upset, happy, sad, encouraged, or rejected. someone else might have done something and then you CHOSE an emotional reaction as the appropriate response. big difference.

i believe in tough-love gardening. if it can’t come back each year (and preferably multiply), then I’m probably not planting it and fussing over it. If it’s a delicate plant with special water/sun requirements, I have no use for it.

i believe in the idea of preserving a slice of family history through the snippets that are blogged.

i believe i am often guilty of alternately taking myself too seriously, and then not taking anything seriously enough. Guilty of overreacting one minute over nothing, and under-reacting the next over something quite significant.

i believe it’s more than a little bit self-absorbed to write 850+ words about what you do and do not believe. but blogging always seems a bit self-absorbed and here I am anyway, and with an embarrassingly long list of archives over there on the right. i’d hide them if i were more tech-y and I knew how, because it’s getting kinda showy. it’s getting kind of “I Have Been Blogging Since The Advent of the Internet, I Am THAT Old.”

Despite that last part, I don’t really believe in getting worked up over age and aging. Maybe I’ll change my mind one day.

Anyway. I’d love to hear your beliefs.

 

 

~hm

22 Comments on “Oh So Important, This Stuff”

1
Jan
July 21st, 2011
1:09 pm

As in, a quick response here, or a blog post on my site? Cuz, you know, I tend to get a little long-winded.

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Becky
July 21st, 2011
1:20 pm

I believe…
that this post totally had me envisioning you sitting next to Larry the Cable Guy on the Blue Collar Comedy Tour set.

I also believe…
that your beliefs and mine line up almost exactly – except the one about adrenaline, sweat and sore muscles. Just never EVER been able to make myself enjoy those things (unless they include my hubby and a weekend without the kids) ***can’t believe I just typed that – and even more that I’m not deleting it***

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Kelsey
July 21st, 2011
1:36 pm

Jan,
more jan blog posts, ALWAYS, girl.

Becky. BECKY, becky, BECKY.
was i coming off way redneck?! I’m good with that! i haven’t actually seen Larry the Cable Guy, so i’m thinking that’s the implication (surely), but if i”m missing it, by all means clue me in. Also… i believe you should cut and paste what you wrote about your husband and email it to him, saying, “look what i put on the internet today about you, you big stud.” i think…. he’d probably really like that. : )

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Becky
July 21st, 2011
1:48 pm

LOL – no you DON’T come off redneck – but I totally do!

On that show they do this song called “I believe” – where they take turns making jokes that all start with “I believe”.

Like – “I believe that if you let someone in front of you in traffic, and they don’t give that little wave, it should be perfectly legal to get underneath them, get them loose, and put them in the wall” [Nascar reference]

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Sara
July 21st, 2011
6:45 pm

I love your list! Since I am pressed for time right now, let me just say I also believe in reconnecting (both the hugging the obnoxious child and the praying),
down time,
not needing other people to positively define you (thank goodness for that, since even some of those dearest to me tend to put me down…but then they get the hug!),
but I also believe in appreciating others even if they don’t need my appreciation either.

I also believe you need to choose your reaction to things about you, although I do think someone can make you feel sad or happy or angry…but your reaction to it is all yours to define.

I believe in preserving family history as well, I do it with journals of funny and momentous things the kids say and do, and through photo albums that I try to come up with every year. I call them my digests.

I also don’t get too worked up about getting old. (Notice the “too.” It does bother me sometimes.

I believe we should be thankful each day for our blessings.

I believe that we should always let the people near and dear to us know how much we love them, because sometimes life is cut short without warning. You don’t want to have regrets. This is why, even when I am really angry at the hubby, or know he is angry at me, I still make sure to tell him I love him. Same with the kids.

Above all, I believe God put me here for a purpose, and my life is worth nothing if I don’t seek to live out His will for me. It’s a growing process and some days are better than others.

That’s some of them. Now I believe I’m going to be late…

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Linda
July 21st, 2011
7:56 pm

Ditto your thoughts about wearing logos. Wth? Are we supposed to be impressed by that? People pay too much for clothes. Target anyone?

Woohoo… and dittos for sparkle lip gloss and cute shoes! You are talkin’ my language, sister…

Umm, yeh… the emotions thing. Easier said than done, but if I turned off the TV and got off the couch, I might get your point.

How long did it take you to put this list of treasures together, anyway? Very clever, and so much to think about.

Kudos and hugs… : ) … to your mom, too!

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bamamama
July 21st, 2011
9:25 pm

I believe you are hilarious and wonderful all at once
I soo enjoyed this!!!

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Kelsey
July 21st, 2011
9:52 pm

Becky,
I am so glad you explained. Never saw the show or the song, but it makes sense now. I also believe in the little wave. learned that from my daddy.

Sara,
GREAT list. (and it’s so beautifully you.)

Linda,
i knew i had you at shoes and lip gloss… that was 20 minutes of my today i cannot get back. good thing it doesn’t bother me. : )

bamamama,
(i get lost when i type that and have to say it and go slow!) oh thank you!!

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Jennifer Sullivan
July 21st, 2011
11:07 pm

I believe in pistachio pudding.
I believe that animals can make anyone feel better, no matter how sour their mood.
I believe in awesome blogs and the friends that I only know through them.
I believe that happiness can be attained simply and when you least expect it.
I believe in clean restrooms (although I don’t always find them).
I believe in great books being the answer to peace.
I believe in karma and think it’s always best to at least TRY to be nice even when it’s really difficult.

10
Geekwif
July 22nd, 2011
5:25 am

Love this! I say “Amen” to pretty much everything, and especially to manly arms, jeans that fit, and tough-love gardening.

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Mysti
July 22nd, 2011
9:18 am

I believe in swiping great blog ideas ;-) Off to do my own list in Hicksville. (And I *totally* agree on the gardening item for flowers/shrubs. Which ends my dream of hydrangeas all around my house, but honestly – if they’re too wimpy to survive in west Texas, then I’d rather spend my money on daylilies and iris’)

12
Mother T
July 22nd, 2011
12:10 pm

I believe that you have started a trend/meme! I’m working on my own post based on this now.

13
LaLa
July 22nd, 2011
3:24 pm

I believe in the power of lists and words and laughing, making other people laugh and chocolate. And I believe fresh-baked cookies make almost anything better. And I believe in you!

14
Headless Mom
July 24th, 2011
12:28 am

I believe you are right. I’ll be doing this soon! (I needed some good material.)

15
Sir Nottaguy-Imadad
July 24th, 2011
8:21 pm

I love this list. I came over from my wife’s blog (Mother T’s World). Some of your posts just crack me up.

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Janera
July 24th, 2011
9:16 pm

LOVE this post! I believe I agree with Mysti and may have to swipe this great idea, too. And, at the top of my list right now is my belief that we are not set in this life to be comfortable. If we’re comfortable, we’re probably not doing all we can to serve the Lord.

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Kelsey
July 24th, 2011
9:32 pm

JS,
you make me want to try pistachio pudding. i’m intrigued.

Geekwif,
AND to JS’ mentions of clean bathrooms, right? Yep.

Mysti,
i look forward to reading!! yes to the daylilies and irises… i get mine for dirt cheap (ha) on… ebay, of course. except when i got great cannas from janera!

Mother T,
YEA!! let me know when it’s up, please! And… does your feed actually work? I can’t get it to, but it’s prob just me.

laLa,
AWWW! How very Don Williams of you! (always a good thing)

Headless,
EXCELLENT.

Sir,
so nice to meet you! big fan of your wife!

Janera,
HEY! nice to see you again! you show up and there you go, being all wise and RIGHT. but that’s okay. i have NOT been comfortable this weekend, so it gave me something to consider in a new way. : )

18
Sarah
July 25th, 2011
10:31 am

Loved the list.

I’m so with you on the manly arms. Huge fan. So thankful my husband sports ‘em but doesn’t feel it necessary to flex them (unless I ask).

I’ll make my own list this week, awesome idea!
Sarah recently posted..I hope nothing goes right so I have blog material

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Geekwif
July 25th, 2011
11:04 pm

Definitely yes! to JS’ clean bathrooms!
Geekwif recently posted..Jane Eyre (Again) And Other Books

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Holy Mama! » What Y’all Believe
July 28th, 2011
7:13 pm

[...] Becky, Sara, and Jennifer Sullivan added theirs right in the comment section. [...]

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Linda
July 28th, 2011
10:19 pm

After some real thought…

I’m still so superficial and materialistic that I don’t know what I believe. I cleaned my diamond really well today, but why do I believe that matters… that anyone is looking. Hmmm…

I will share more the next time this question comes around… is there a beginner’s version?

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Kelsey
July 30th, 2011
7:19 pm

Linda,
sparkly things should sparkle. nothin wrong with that! (so depressing to see a diamond all cloudy and gray from old hand lotion and soap, right?)

and please. you are one of the most deep, insightful people I know who never shies away from saying what she believes! sure, you like lip gloss and sparkly flip flops, but that will never undermine your hard earned wisdom and ability to go straight to the heart of any matter like no one else does. not here, anyway! : )

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