Thursday, March 15th 2012
More Sun Ahead

All fairytales end. Even fairytale divorces. Ours ended before it began. I’ve been holding off on officially filing for divorce until Mike can rearrange a lot of things financially. (don’t cringe too much. i think it’s OKAY. really. in everyone’s best interest and all of that)

he did not say the words, “And in return for this favor, i will not date local beauties and spend money on other women from our joint account where you can see all the details.”

and clearly… he did not THINK those words.

and somehow… I just heard them anyway.

Weird, huh?

Anyway. It was an excellent opportunity to see how the news affected me, and wonder why, and then put on my $7 tiara and look to the One whose love and perspective actually does matter.

What Mike does should be of little concern to me now. I just want a separate financial arrangement so that it really isn’t any of my concern on that level, either. I wish him every happiness. I just didn’t expect him to, uh, realize EVERY happiness quite so soon.  But he’s always been an overachiever.

It is a GORGEOUS day here. I’m going outside to paint furniture. I have a Queen Anne headboard that is begging to be painted emerald green. I should probably oblige.

I urge y’all to look at exactly where your self worth comes from, and I hope that you are completely satisfied with ALL the answers that come to mind. If you’re not, let this be your own opportunity to re-think. That’s where I am.

(It’s not a bad place to be, and the weather’s great.)

 

 

~hm

10 Comments on “More Sun Ahead”

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Jan
March 15th, 2012
3:43 pm

Bad enough, but could be worse. I know of a situation where he was charging purchases for his wedding to his new honey, and the statements were still going to the soon-to-be ex-wife.
The queen Anne headboard sounds gorgeous. Sounds like you have found a way to work off any bad energy without doing yourself any damage!
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Sarah
March 15th, 2012
3:55 pm

Thinking of you, sweet friend! Think maybe one of these years you could post before and after pics of renovations? Hmm?? Hmm?? :)
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Melissa
March 15th, 2012
5:27 pm

James 1:12 (NASB)
Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.
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Geekwif
March 15th, 2012
7:22 pm

Wow. One day it’s your favorite screwdrivers wrapped in a blue bow, and the next … this. I am SO glad you know the One whose love is constant, true, and everlasting. You deserve so much better.

That emerald green Queen Anne headboards sounds fabulous!
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Sara
March 16th, 2012
9:17 am

Thinking of and praying for you, Kelsey!

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Kelsey
March 16th, 2012
12:57 pm

Jan,
eeeew. yeah, could def be worse.

Sarah,
i should definitely do that…. i should definitely TAKE before pics!

Melissa,
i love your sweet heart, girl.

GW,
thank you!! the QA headboard is on pause. I moved onto something else. I went to look at paint colors in the garage and got very drawn in by a turqouoise. so…. waiting. i’m painting a little french prov nightstand ‘old violet’ over ‘duck egg blue’ with the d.e.b. showing through once the old violet is distressed. it’s almost done. looking CUTE.

okay, i’ll def have to figure out pics again.

sara, THANK YOU.

to anonymous:
i asked if he was dating. he confirmed. i didn’t assume anything, but i can understand your concern there.

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Jennifer Sullivan
March 18th, 2012
5:43 pm

ughh… and on a happier note I hope to see pics soon.
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Gidget
March 18th, 2012
10:18 pm

Wow – I haven’t checked in in a while and I definitely got shocked.

Luckily, we serve a God that can carry you through – I’m praying for you and the boys.
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Mysti
March 19th, 2012
12:24 pm

(completely restraining herself because she tends to get all irritated on the behalf of friends and really – you are being *so* level headed during this and don’t even need me going all Odessa on him…so…)

I add my plea for pictures to the rest of your lovely commenters!!! We want to see!!!!

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Michele
April 1st, 2012
9:18 pm

You’re doing the right thing. Your advice reminds me of Max Lucado’s children’s story about the Wemmicks with the stars and the dots.

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