Monday, April 2nd 2012
Why No One Asks Me To House-Sit

I don’t  know about y’all, but it’s been a WEEK.

There were the unfounded murmurings that I’d been somehow, in some way unfaithful. (Uh, NO.) Although I did I kiss someone who was not Mike when I was 22ish and learned a GREAT deal from that mistake. There were other learning experiences, but nothing as bad as that one, and nothing I wouldn’t sit down with you and discuss if you asked.  It would have been oh-so holy for me to meet these whispers with, “well. that’s not true. no matter how unfaithful is defined…  and i know it and God knows it and that’s ALL that matters.”

But it was harder than that. For a couple of days. And then I think I got there. To the shrugging it off place.

Then I started racking up expenses. Not because I’m a retail therapy sort. But because I’m a Watch Out Because Everything Breaks Around Me sort, and it’s worse when I’m stressed.

Like:

1. the DOG. expensive vet bill. She’ll be fine. But it’s personal, and you don’t want the details.

2. the carpet. The expense of having it cleaned will be high and DIRECTLY related to #1.

3. the transmission. It’s the 3rd one for this car in…  4 years? Could that be my fault? I don’t know. It suddenly has to be ‘babied’ into 3rd gear and the rpms spike and it protests. I don’t baby anything. Except babies. And pets. And men. (Nope, nevermind – not those anymore either.)

4. the hot water heater. UGH. It’s the 7th one in 8 years. We have 2… so it’s not the same one every time. They take turns. That got replaced, and another little pump thing that burned up. (my dad talked me through how to turn various things off so that more bad stuff didn’t happen. thanks, daddy.)

5. the locks. I thought I’d work on the locks in the house. The front door deadbolt has always been upside down and I hate that and then I lost a key, and it was just a good time to rekey. BUT. I screwed that all up. I lost some of the microscopic springs in a deadbolt’s cylinder and then the ones that I didn’t lose, I chopped in half by accident. They are tiny and delicate, those springs. The locksmith who is fixing all my ‘work’ will cost ten times what i was planning on spending by doing it myself.

6. today I was in my truck since I am SO OVER babying an SUV into 3rd gear and i ran over a giant board with a HUGE nail sticking out of it. I saw it. At the last second. And I coulda avoided it by slamming into a minivan. So, you know, it coulda been worse. i guess.

So basically everything’s falling apart. But… not me. I’m good. And not the kids. They’re good. Well behaved and coping and good grades, etc.  The rest of this may be  inconvenient and expensive and irritating, but it’s all so very minor when you think about it.

But  Mike might be real glad to separate our finances as soon as possible.

I had a $5000+ week.

(Feel better about yours yet? )

 

~hm

9 Comments on “Why No One Asks Me To House-Sit”

1
LaLa
April 3rd, 2012
11:57 am

Yes. (Hugs.)

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Mysti
April 3rd, 2012
12:46 pm

My goodness. Sending virtual hugs and thinking you made need another trip to a mexican food restaurant that serves very large sangrias very soon!

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Jan
April 3rd, 2012
6:00 pm

OOOhhh, girl! Let’s go have a margarita. That’s my fallback position when these kinds of things happen. So sorry you are having all these problems.
I never thought you were being unfaithful to anyone, or with anyone, which ever applies.
Tell Mike you need a new SUV, new water heaters (both of them), new carpets, and new locks. You’re on your own with the defective dog. ;)
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Michele
April 3rd, 2012
9:46 pm

Yow. I think yours was definitely worse than ours. I thought we had it rough because all five of us got the flu during spring break. But we’re only out $150 for medical expenses, so you win. So sorry about the rough stuff. I’m glad you sound chipper about it. And I really hope things get better soon. You deserve better. :D

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Jenn Sullivan
April 3rd, 2012
10:12 pm

I swear it feels like we were competing for worst week ever. But you win because although my dryer was fixed for all of 4 minutes (literally) before the motor went out yesterday I didn’t almost get in an accident or have to call a locksmith. The dryer should be fixed in another 2 weeks (or so they hope). Also the carpets here are ok and so are the dogs and none of my state or family is dealing with tornadoes.

I guess joking about the tires isn’t so funny after you blew a tire… Oops. Sorry about that.

The unfaithful thing is a crock – it was such a far reach into ridiculousness (ridiculousquity? really what is the right term here?). Anyways – Stupidly untrue and ridiculous.

Stay safe, maybe wear a helmet & some bubble wrap and um don’t use anything that requires electricity or any kind of gas for a while?
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Inkling
April 4th, 2012
1:23 am

This is exactly why we should house-sit together. Because then I’d know what to expect. ;) In my 20′s that was how I supplemented my income. But huge saltwater tanks suddenly going out and causing fish to die, golden retrievers getting sick all over white carpet before dying at the vet’s office, squirrels drowning in inground pools, and a water heater leaking throughout an entire basement before I happened to notice something was wrong all are par for the course with me. And somehow, people kept on hiring me. You’d think you’d want to stay away from someone so accident/drama prone. But no. They actually paid me for the drama. It would have been so much more fun to have you along for the ride. =)

I’m sorry to have been so quiet here for so long. I admit the news you guys were going through a divorce threw me for a loop, even though we don’t know each other at all. But I was dealing with my own fairytale being plunged into hard reality, and so I got quiet. But I was still reading and praying. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, more sorry than I know how to say. Someday this world will get made right again. Here’s hoping God does it soon.

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Sara
April 4th, 2012
10:00 am

Oh my. I’ve had an expensive week but yours is more so…I’m glad you’re okay anyway. I am still a little stressed over mine, this is a good reminder not to let little things become big things and bog me down. And I hope things will look up for all of us in the coming days. :)

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Mother T
April 7th, 2012
8:41 am

It never fails to amaze me how so many things can break/go wrong in such a short space of time! It’s not just to you that these things happen. We’ve had our fair share of these types of weeks. (Thank the Good Lord, it hasn’t happened recently. And, please Jesus, let it be longer, MUCH longer!) ((HUGS))
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Geekwif
April 8th, 2012
5:27 am

Ugh. I’m so sorry. I guess it’s true what they say – when it rains it pours. I hope your “rain” changes from trials to blessings very soon!!
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