Friday, June 29th 2012
Mad at the Homeless Man

Another sign that you’re irritable might be if you get really mad at the same homeless man. I generally do not give money to homeless.  But I will toss out protein bars if I have them, water if it’s hot, and quick silent prayers. And when I’m irritable, ‘toss out protein bars’ can totally mean, “smack that guy HARD” with a  protein bar.

I haven’t done it lately.

He sits on the corner of the freeway where I u-turn to go to the kids’ school. He started flinching when he saw me. AND SO YOU SHOULD, BUDDY.

But he gets on my nerves. A LOT. And it’s probably irrational, I know. But he looks PERFECTLY able and willing to be far more productive than he is (in my own seriously nosy assessment based on not much), and with a shower – a LONG shower – he might even be kinda cute.

But that’s not why i can’t stand him. Although I’m really not terribly accepting of cute men- or men at all, really. Homeless or otherwise. I think this is a perfectly fine place for me to be, though.

He holds a sign (that makes no offer or claim to seek work, and as long as I’m being all judge-y, THAT sign irks me too) and BEHIND the sign?

He texts. 

Seriously. HE TEXTS.

I don’t know who or what he’s texting.  Obviously. But as I u-turn around him, my vantage point is perfectly clear and he is a regular texter and that gets on my nerves like… like flies. I stopped throwing protein bars. Which he probably appreciated, actually.

I have not stopped praying for him when I drive by, but that irritates me too, because THEN i have to pray about my crappy attitude too. EVERY SINGLE TIME.


But I just very much think that homeless people should not be texting, and their cardboard signs should sincerely offer their interest in working.

I’ve tried to make up a story that makes me drive by and think, “aw. that’s sweet. he’s texting.”

But maybe there IS such a story. And maybe it IS true.

MAYBE this man is texting his mama as he sits there. Maybe she gave him the phone and asked him to please do that so she wouldn’t worry about him, and he does it because he wants to HONOR her, or something like that.

That would be nice.


(Nope. I’m not buying it. i tried.)



Sidenote: good for YOU, Katie Holmes. He was WEIRD.



7 Comments on “Mad at the Homeless Man”

June 30th, 2012
12:51 pm

I don’t buy it either, and I feel the same way when I pass the same homeless person day after day, and wonder why can’t you at least LOOK for a job?
Anger is one of the stages of mourning. Any time an important relationship disappears or disintegrates, there is a period of mourning, and we just have to get into it, dig out the real issues, pray real hard, and leave it with God. I’m praying hard for you.
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June 30th, 2012
1:04 pm

well, you saw right through me. i should not be at all surprised. : ) i walked into counseling this week and when the lovely therapist lady asked how i was i said, “I”M ANGRY” and she clapped her hands and said, “YEA!!! That’ll be FUN to do today!” with genuine glee. (she’s an odd mix of funny/wise/adorable/and a lot more)

I appreciate those prayers. Thank you.

June 30th, 2012
5:50 pm

Sounds like you have found a therapist who fits your needs. I’m glad! I would love to have been a fly on the wall at that session!
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June 30th, 2012
6:16 pm

I don’t know if I should laugh or cry. I know how hard it is to live with another fallen human being, fight and then try to get along. I don’t know how hard it is to go through all of that and then have to go through actual splitting of assets\ kids PLUS try to be civil. I know I would have some definite “F-it” moments and it wouldn’t be pretty. That might include throwing more than protein bars at homeless people.

To comment on your side note: I agree – Katie, good on you – I am pretty sure he is gay anyway.

July 2nd, 2012
9:42 am

I’m sitting in Starbucks with my laptop, catching up on your posts and the sidenote to Katie Holmes just made me laugh out loud. Pretty sure the other patrons in here think I’m nutso.

July 2nd, 2012
9:43 am

And for some reason I hit “submit” before I was through with my comment. But now I cannot, for the life of me, remember what I else I was going to say. Guess I coulda just been good with the previous comment and been done. :)

July 15th, 2012
8:49 am

I’m a little late here – catching up – but I just had to give my two cents on the homeless thing. I used to work with a blind guy who had a good job at a big company doing customer service over the phone. When I see an apparently perfectly healthy person begging on a corner I think that if the blind guy could get a good job there is no reason they can’t.

If I were a tall man with lots of muscles, I might be the kind who would stop and say, “Hey, if you wanna mow my lawn I’ll be sure you eat well today.” But I’m not, so I don’t. Sometimes I think maybe I should be a little more compassionate, but the fact is that they could go to the local shelter, get cleaned up, and find a job doing something, anything, to get themselves back on their feet. I know a guy who did just that many years ago and now he had a wonderful life and is one of the people I respect most in this world.

Also, usually I don’t care about celebrity’s lives, but yay for Katie!! Especially for Suri’s sake. That little girl does not need to have a psycho like him in her daily life.

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