A brief update:
if you REALLY know what you’re doing, and you are the sort of person who actually WOULD do this… you can make sure both spouses’ names are on the house title. But then make sure that only ONE spouse’s name is on the mortgage. (Not yours.) THEN. After the divorce, live in the home, pay rent or don’t, it doesn’t matter… your credit isn’t TOUCHED. In fact, hire a credit repair service to clean up your credit while you do this. It’ll be easy since you aren’t making those pesky rent/mortgage payments like the rest of the world and you have the luxury of skipping that payment for months at a time. It isn’t like it affects… YOU. Just that ex-spouse. Also, blame that ex-spouse when you can for this arrangement. Hey, why the hell not?
Turns out not a judge in Texas can evict you. Your name IS on the title, after all. You can stay and do this as LONG AS YOU WANT.
Or… you could sell the house and buy another one. Hey, your credit is cleaned up, right? Good for you.
You don’t have a clear title… and your ex-spouse has to sign off on it… but clearly that won’t be a problem. The ex-spouse has nothing to gain, though. You’ve trashed that person’s credit. What’s the benefit? What’s that person have to lose?
Well. Now that is a problem.
Herein comes the sort of language that has struck me as SO familiar. I couldn’t put my finger on it. It flat out gave me the creeps. But I finally figured out why it bothered me.
you know you want this, too.
don’t fight me on this, or it’ll be harder on everyone.
just do what I’m asking and it’ll be over and we can move on with our lives.
Kind of… chilling, right?
It’s the dialogue given to a certain sort of character in lots of books and movies, in lots of various scenes and circumstances and disputes and crimes. Domineering, selfish, meant to scare someone into submitting to an arrangement or an act or something that is not actually… agreeable.
That’s where things stand.
I’ve refused to engage in that sort of talk, but have agreed to negotiate. And I will. Gladly, even, if treated with professionalism and respect.
But I won’t be coerced. I won’t be threatened.
It doesn’t work like that anymore.
I gotta go. I get to hang out with the 2 year olds this morning. Have a great day, y’all. : )